Couples Counseling
You want to finally feel like you can communicate!
Most relationships at some point get stuck in negative patterns of communication. We find ourselves repeating the same arguments with no resolution, and we start to feel hopeless. When you try to talk to each other, if you feel a sense of "here we go again," then you know you're stuck in it again. This is very frustrating for couples and can make you want to give up, but don't! We can help!
You want to become lovers again, instead of roommates.
When couples get tired of this pattern, they sometimes stop trying and just get through the day and run the "family business" of paying the bills and taking care of the kids, etc. At this point, couples begin to feel like roommates. Once the sexual intimacy also fades, you might start to wonder if you're even in love anymore. These are lonely and painful times for couples. We can support you in learning how to get the intimacy back!
You need help recovering and rebuilding after an affair
Although it may seem too difficult, it is possible to repair your relationship after an affair. You can rebuild trust and a new level of intimacy, maybe even more than you had before. Individuals and couples can learn a lot about themselves and their relationships from affairs, and we hope to help you use this time for healing and growth in order move forward, in or beyond your current relationship.
You are considering a break-up and need help seeing if there is any hope. This is known as Discernment Counseling.
Sometimes couples get hopeless and feel that breaking up or getting divorced is the only option. This is a big decision, especially when children are involved.
Discernment Counseling is short term counseling with specific goals. We work together to help each of you weigh your options, determine if there is any hope for your relationship and if counseling could help, and gain clarity so you are confident in the choice you make.
If you choose to work on it, resources can be discussed for moving on with couples counseling. If you choose to end the relationship, resources will be provided for that as well.
Couples counseling is a difficult type of therapy that requires specialized training and skills in order to effectively help struggling couples.
All too often couples have gotten therapy with a well intentioned, but inexperienced therapist leaving them frustrated, and possibly giving up too soon.
Therefore, CFTC was developed as a center dedicated to continuously train and master therapy models and techniques that are designed for couples and strengthening relationships. Our therapists have specialized training in Discernment Counseling, The Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and/or Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).
Couples counseling at CFTC is helpful to all couples. We work with couples of all faiths, ethnicities, sexual orientations, and with different structures.
MORE RESOURCES FOR COUPLES
Models of Couples Therapy: Read about the leading models of couples therapy to see what appeals to you and find links to resources from the leaders in the field.
Free Handouts: Our own handouts that we use with couples that you can use to jump start your therapy or start improving your communication on your own.