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    Therapy for Divorce

    September 30, 2021

    When we say the words, “I do,” we never imagine that one day those words will turn into, “It’s over.” But the statistics point to the fact that many marriages do not make it. In fact, the CDC reports that 42% of marriages have a high probability of ending in divorce. Why Should You Consider […]

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    Therapy for Divorce

    September 30, 2021

    When we say the words, “I do,” we never imagine that one day those words will turn into, “It’s over.” But the statistics point to the fact that many marriages do not make it. In fact, the CDC reports that 42% of marriages have a high probability of ending in divorce.

    Why Should You Consider Therapy for Divorce?

    When a marriage ends, it typically leaves one or both partners wondering, “what happened?” As a major life transition, divorce can be traumatic and mentally, physically, and emotionally draining.

    Therapy offers individuals powerful coping skills that can help them navigate their overwhelming thoughts and feelings. Therapy offers a safe space to explore and share your feelings so you can make sense of them yourself. It’s a way for people to have a healthier outlook on their divorce and become empowered during a very difficult time.

    Different Therapy Modalities for Divorce

    Every situation is unique and will require the right type of therapy:

    Individual Therapy

    Individual therapy is incredibly helpful for those people experiencing depression or anxiety, or who view the divorce as a personal failure. This type of therapy can help you discover your own needs and a better understanding of who you are.

    Couples Therapy

    Divorce will never be easy. But with the proper guidance, the lines of communication can stay open and the separation can remain constructive and amicable. A therapist can help you both navigate those hard decisions such as financial obligations and co-parenting.

    Family Therapy

    Children are, of course, deeply affected by a divorce, and often the parents are too consumed in their own emotions to offer proper guidance. Family therapy can help the entire family deal with the feelings of loss and grief.

    Mediation

    Settling a divorce in court can be costly and exhausting. Many couples choose to mediate their own divorce through the help of a trained therapist. Mediation not only costs less and typically takes far less time than divorce litigation, but it may also help improve your lines of communication as you both move forward.

    If you are going through a divorce and would like to discuss treatment options, please get in touch with me.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/divorce/recovery
    • https://www.therapytribe.com/therapy/divorce-counseling-advice-support/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-grownups/200904/marriage-counseling-and-the-decision-divorce

    Filed Under: Couples/Marriage, Separation/Divorce

    Creating a Parenting Plan

    September 27, 2021

    In a perfect world, marriages would never dissolve. But divorce is a reality and one that impacts everyone involved, including the children. To help children feel safe and secure during the weeks and months that follow a divorce, it is important that both parties work together to come up with a co-parenting plan. Keeping Your […]

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    Creating a Parenting Plan

    September 27, 2021

    In a perfect world, marriages would never dissolve. But divorce is a reality and one that impacts everyone involved, including the children. To help children feel safe and secure during the weeks and months that follow a divorce, it is important that both parties work together to come up with a co-parenting plan.

    Keeping Your Children’s Best Interests in Mind

    Simply put, a co-parenting plan is a comprehensive document that outlines how parents will continue to raise their children after a separation or divorce. This document will lay out things like how much time children will spend with each parent, how decisions – both major and minor – will be made moving forward, how the information will be shared and exchanged, and more.

    While there are no hard and fast rules as to how a co-parenting plan should be formatted or what information should be included, it is vitally important to approach the plan’s development with your children’s best interests in mind. To create a helpful document, all issues, emotions, and pettiness should be put aside, and the focus should remain on what is best for your children.

    Things to be Included

    It’s important to mention that co-parenting plans may differ from state to state. Having said that, most will include the following five clauses:

    1. A Brief General Statement

    The plan will typically open with a general statement that the parents will be sharing responsibilities of parenting the child or children. This includes shared decision-making and shared daily routines.

    2. Outline Parental Responsibilities

    In this section, parents agree to communicate on all important aspects of the children’s welfare. This can include making decisions regarding health, education, and religious upbringing.

    3. Specifics

    This section can cover how you will actually arrange to time-share. This includes routine time, activity time, overnight stays, etc.

    4. Holidays

    Outline how you and your ex will handle holidays and other special observances.

    5. Time Period and Amendments

    All co-parenting plans should mention the length of the agreement and that the plan will need to be re-examined and possibly adjusted from time to time moving forward.

    Again, these are very general guidelines. Your plan can be more explicit and specific to your situation.

    Getting Help with Your Co-Parenting Plan

    To create the right plan for your family, it’s recommended that you get some guidance. While a lawyer can help you with specific legalities, a family counselor can help you with communication. After all, you will need to navigate your emotions and be able to hear and be heard for the best interests of your children. A therapist can facilitate healthy and clear communication.

    If you’d like to work with a family counselor to create a co-parenting plan that will help you both raise happy and successful children, please reach out to me.

    RESOURCES:

    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201510/developing-co-parenting-plans
    • https://www.avvo.com/family-law/child-custody/how-to-create-a-parenting-plan
    • https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/creating-a-successful-parenting-plan

    Filed Under: Parenting, Separation/Divorce

    Benefits of Co-Parenting (And How to Do It)

    July 10, 2021

    When two people decide to separate or divorce, the first question they usually must answer is, “What’s best for the children?” Well, according to the Third International Conference on Shared Parenting, co-sponsored by the National Parents Organization and the International Council on Shared Parenting, children need both parents in their life, no matter how those […]

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    Benefits of Co-Parenting (And How to Do It)

    July 10, 2021

    When two people decide to separate or divorce, the first question they usually must answer is, “What’s best for the children?” Well, according to the Third International Conference on Shared Parenting, co-sponsored by the National Parents Organization and the International Council on Shared Parenting, children need both parents in their life, no matter how those two adults feel about each other. It is for this reason that most child health experts agree that co-parenting is in the best interests of children of divorce.

    The latest research indicates that children of divorce, who have parents who agree to co-parent, can grow up just as well and adjusted as those children from homes where parents had successful marriages. They may actually fair a little better and have a lower divorce rate themselves and be more successful in their careers. Why is this?

    Children that come from co-parenting learn how to proactively create good situations. They also see their parents working together for THEIR benefit, which gives them a healthy sense of self-worth. And, seeing parents successfully communicating with one another teaches them how to have good relationships with others.

    Tips for Co-Parenting

    Co-parenting will take some practice to get it right. Here are some tips for you and your parenting partner:

    Make a Commitment

    This journey will be bumpy. Make a commitment to your children and promise to have open and honest communication where their well-being is concerned.

    Have Rules

    Rules for each household should be agreed upon at the very beginning. Your children will test you both. Rules will help to ensure routine and structure, which they need greatly.

    Avoid Negative Talk

    While you may have issues with your ex, that is still your child’s parent. Refrain from “trash talking” the other around your children.

    Seek Counsel

    If you need help with lines of communication or help putting in place a comprehensive co-parenting plan, I encourage you to seek the guidance of a trained family therapist. He or she can navigate these choppy waters so everything is done with your child’s best interests in mind.

    If you’d like to work with a family therapist who is caring, nurturing, and never judgmental, please reach out to my office.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201706/understanding-children-s-best-interests-in-divorce
    • https://coparenter.com/blog/12-benefits-of-coparenting/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/two-takes-depression/201203/the-dos-and-donts-co-parenting-well

    Filed Under: Parenting, Separation/Divorce

    Helping Kids Cope with Divorce

    April 5, 2021

    Divorce isn’t easy for anyone, but children can take it particularly hard. Many children don’t understand what is happening and many more feel the divorce is somehow their fault.    Here’s how you can help your child cope: Communicate Openly The divorce should be explained in simple and straightforward terms. If at all possible, both […]

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    Helping Kids Cope with Divorce

    April 5, 2021

    Divorce isn’t easy for anyone, but children can take it particularly hard. Many children don’t understand what is happening and many more feel the divorce is somehow their fault. 

     

    Here’s how you can help your child cope:

    Communicate Openly

    The divorce should be explained in simple and straightforward terms. If at all possible, both parents should be part of the conversation. Your language should be tailored to the age of your children as well. So for instance, when speaking with very small children you might say something like, “Mommy and Daddy yell at each other a lot and everyone is feeling unhappy. So we have decided to live in different houses. But we love you very much and we will both take care of you still.”

    Keep Things Predictable

    Children do best when their environments are familiar and predictable. Do your best to provide the structure and routine your children have become used to.

    Explain How Things Will Work

    Many children will panic at the news, they will not understand how both Mommy and Daddy will both remain in their lives. So clearly explain how things will work going forward. “You will spend weekends with Daddy, and the rest of the time you will be here with Mommy.” You may also want to work on creating a calendar together so your child has something to refer to.

    Never Speak Badly About Your Ex

    Your ex may have caused you a lot of emotional pain in your relationship, but to your child, that ex is their mommy or daddy. Never speak unkindly about your child’s other parent.

    Encourage Your Children to Speak Honestly About Their Emotions

    Your child will sense that YOU are dealing with a lot of emotions, and, wanting to protect you, he or she will keep their emotions to themselves. It’s important that you encourage your children to talk to you candidly about how they are feeling. Let them know they can come to you at any time and talk to you whether they are scared, sad, or angry.

    Seek Guidance

    Everyone’s situation is different – and all children are different. Some may take the news better than others. You may find that your child is suffering more than you originally expected. If this happens, it may be a good idea to seek help from a trained family therapist, who can give all of you helpful coping tools.

     

    If you would like to explore treatment options for your child, please get in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

     

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/once-upon-child/201605/helping-children-cope-divorce
    • https://blogs.psychcentral.com/divorce/2020/06/divorce-making-children-our-focus/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-raise-happy-cooperative-child/201302/8-strategies-helping-kids-adjust-divorce

    Filed Under: Children, Parenting, Separation/Divorce



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